You’ve Got a Friend in Me: Supporting Your MS Family

Aoife Kirwan
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Aoife Kirwan

As you may have seen, My Body, My Mind, My Say hosted a Facebook Live on our Living Like You Facebook page at the end of 2016, highlighting the many ways that MS can affect emotions. This event allowed our two experts, Yolanda Higueras, a neuropsychologist from Spain, and Rosemarie Wilson, a life coach from the UK living with MS, to address your questions about MS and mood in real time.

As many of you know, MS can sometimes prove difficult not only for those that have been diagnosed, but also for the support network of friends and families helping out along the way. Because it can be a challenge to know how others can help, our experts are sharing their tried and true methods for providing beneficial support to those in your circle living with MS.

  • Inform yourself! Your friend or family member is most likely overwhelmed by all of the terms and conditions associated with an MS diagnosis. Why not do a little research to help them out? They may appreciate it more than you even know.
  • Create a safe space to allow effective communication. It’s important for those dealing with a diagnosis to always have someone to lean on in both good times and bad. Try to be that person!
  • Whether through spoken language or written word, encourage your friend or family member to communicate about how they feel. When they do open up, make sure that you are listening! Rosemarie recommends starting the conversation with a degree of empathy. Try something like this: “I don’t really understand how you’re feeling, but I want to understand more.” This not only creates a supportive environment, but also acknowledges that you aren’t in the position to know how that person is feeling at the moment.

Why Worry About What Hasn’t Happened Yet?

When it comes to living with MS, many people report feeling worried about the future and what it means for them. According to Rosemarie, the “first thing is to ask yourself: what does worry do for you? What is in our control now?” She continues on reminding our community to “do what’s in your power to make what’s important to you happen. Reject the idea of giving energy to things that aren’t important to you.” At the end of the day, you can only control your own actions so why waste your precious time and energy on worrying about what you can’t change. Stay positive and always remember that our community is here for you!

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