Some months ago I was asked to be in my best friend’s wedding. This was a landmark moment for me for so many reasons, one of which was that it was the first time in a decade that I genuinely stopped to consider wearing heels. My immediate afterthoughts were “What if I walk funny? Will I have an arm to hold onto? Are people going to be staring at me?” and so, based on these fears, I dismissed the idea of a beautiful pair of shoes.
Soon after, my daughter (who I still see as too young to be wearing heels) was invited to a Bar Mitzvah. So, she went in search of an outfit with her father. It was probably a good thing that I was not on that shopping trip, because I may have fainted when she chose these chunky, bright red heels to go with her little black dress. They were so high! To be completely honest, she isn’t as young as I see her, and I was proud that she chose something chic, with just enough pop of color. I was impressed, but more than anything was paranoid she wouldn’t be able to walk in them. Without even realizing it, I was projecting my own fears onto my daughter.
I texted her during the event, “I guess all those years of being a toddler and raiding the heels in my closet are paying off? I hope so. Be careful!” She responded, “Not a problem at all…weeeeeee!” All of a sudden I realized why those heels were so easy for my daughter to move in; they were chunky heels. If I ever wear heels, you will find me wearing wedge heels. Chunky heels are very similar, but even easier to walk in if you are still mobile. If you are in a scooter, they still look great!
I thought I was restricted to flats for the rest of my life. But contrary to popular belief, flats are just as painful, if not more painful, than heels. Some are pointy, some are oxfords, some ballet flats, all different shapes and textures and the truth is, they still hurt. My balance may be better, but I limp just the same from blisters etc. Of course, you need to still be mindful of three things when choosing your heels – thick heel, supportive sole, and a low arch. Emphasis on the THICK heel! It really does make all the difference.
If you have a wedding or holiday party, I say start with Pinterest. I get great inspiration and really fun ideas from there. It’s a wonderful starting point, especially if you are thinking of ditching the flats for some heels. Some of the chunky heels I have tried on are far more comfortable than the flats I thought I’d be wearing for the rest of my life. If you find a favorite, please share! I don’t really care that much about heels these days, but sometimes it’s nice to have the CHOICE.